Most people don’t have experience with divorce and divorce lawyers, and are unaware just how difficult the process is, not only emotionally, but legally as well. Here is a list of seven steps to make sure you make the right choice for you when selecting a divorce lawyer.
- Be realistic
What you need to know is that this is a legal process and the purpose is to resolve assets and custody issues. You must understand that your lawyer’s job is not to listen to your frustration and pain, but to use the facts and evidence in order to represent you in the best way possible. Remember that you pay for their time, and it is not cheap, so it is a waste of money to burden them with your talk that is most suitable for a therapist. And remember that they have seen it all before, so they know what is important in legal matters.
- Stay focused on the goal
When it comes to negotiations about material things, don’t lose your focus on what is really important, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Fighting for every single piece of asset will prolong the process, making you more irritated and, at the end you might not even feel satisfied if you win. Try to get divorced as quickly as possible, with the least amount of financial damages. The goal is to get divorced.
- Know what you want
You don’t have to go to an attorney immediately. You might want to consider a mediator to help, if your situation is not problematic. It is the cheapest and fastest way to divorce, and you might not have to hire an attorney at all. However, if your situation is somewhat complicated, an attorney probably is the best choice. For those who are looking to work together, a collaborative divorce might be the best choice. The goal of this divorce is negotiation to preserve co-parenting. However, if neither side is willing to cooperate, the last resort is trial.
- Identify at least three potential attorneys
If you are going to hire a lawyer, don’t hire the first one you saw. Do some research and try to find a few lawyers and interview them. Make sure that the lawyer you choose deals with family law, that he or she is experienced and communicative. It would be best that they are willing to help you understand the process of divorce and any other legal issues you might run into. You might ask your friends and acquaintances for a reference, or you might ask a lawyer you are considering for a list of former clients to get their comments and feedback.
- Interview and research potential attorneys
After you’ve selected a few, get in touch with them. You might make a phone call, send them an email or visit them at the office. Ask the questions like how much are they charging, how you are expected to pay, what type of clients they usually represent, what is their method or approach to divorce cases, and the like. Most lawyers offer first consult for free, so make sure you use this chance to get as much information as you can.